“It was a shock in the beginning, but now I live my life in the most precious ways.”

“I never imagined that cancer would change my life in a positive way.”

“I soak up the little things, and my cup is always full.”

Recently, an online conversation among neuroendocrine cancer patients shared these sentiments. The phrase “the most precious ways” struck a chord with me. A natural optimist, I have surprisingly been treated for depression since 2000. At the time, only my closest family and friends knew of my struggles. It wasn’t until my NETs diagnosis that I felt comfortable sharing this personal part of my journey. Thankfully, a few years of therapy and a continued, very low dose of an antidepressant work in tandem with my intentional choice to always search for the bright side of life.

Once the shock of a cancer diagnosis begins to wear off, or at least becomes absorbed into your thinking, it can be a challenge to find acceptance. We all struggle with the dread of a potentially shortened life span, the sorrow of lost opportunities, and the realization that some aspects of life are now beyond our control. These feelings are natural. What’s important is finding a way to manage them.

Facing Negativity with Intention

Toxic positivity is not the answer. It denies and minimizes negative emotions, making it harder to process and move forward. Instead, we must learn to face negativity head-on—identify it, acknowledge it, and find ways to manage it. A period of grieving is normal and may resurface from time to time. That’s okay. Comparing your grief to someone else’s, however, is not. Instead, making an effort to connect with others in similar situations can be incredibly helpful. While we should allow ourselves to feel emotions like stress, anxiety, or sadness, we must also strive for balance. Managing your attitude toward a chronic illness is a lifelong process—never quick or easy, but always evolving.

As the patient above expressed, it is possible to embrace life even in the face of illness. Many of us have learned to subdue our angst, give it space when necessary, and share when possible—all while seeking the small joys that keep us inspired.

This conversation reminded me of the very first neuroendocrine cancer patient I met. Her positivity was contagious, and I remain forever grateful for our brief but meaningful friendship.

“A great attitude becomes a great mood.
Which becomes a great day.
Which becomes a great year.
Which becomes a great life.”

Sharing your emotions is important. Finding the right community to do so is essential. At NCAN, we strive to be that community for you. Whether through support groups, patient conferences, or hotline phone conversations, we are HERE to help you navigate your journey. You are not alone. Together, we can learn to live life with neuroendocrine cancer in the most precious ways.

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