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March 1, 2020

By Anne Dabbs, 
NCAN TN Chapter Leader, NET Patient

“April showers bring May flowers”, or so the old saying goes.

But sometimes, the showers persist to become unrelenting storms which darken our lives and our outlooks. They cloud the promise of anything as bright and comforting as springtime flowers. We, as Neuroendocrine Cancer patients and caregivers, are quick to realize that our emotional health can take a beating as well as our physical health. It is important for us to find our calm within these storms.

What do you do to identify the beginning of an emotional storm as you cope with your diagnosis?
What tips and strategies can you utilize to keep your worries and fears in check?
What can harness a setback or disappointment from turning into a full blown emotional crisis?
What can you do to ride out your storm?

Two of the most universal techniques used to nurture emotions are exercise and music.
A brisk walk or gentle yoga can brush away cobwebs. A favorite song can soothe or invigorate, and can transport you back to happier times.
Visual tools can also be helpful: Creating art or just admiring it. Reading a book or keeping a journal can be a balm for many of us.
Practicing gratitude can help find perspective on a difficult situation.

We, alone, control our own happiness, and the importance of focusing on the positive can not be ignored. Keeping mindful of our own mental health is essential. We need to be diligently aware of triggers which can turn small showers into harmful storms. We must develop skills to redirect our attitude when the blues start creeping in. Endurance: the ability to bear up under hardships, is essential. Resilience: the ability to bounce back after a disappointment or setback, needs to become our watchword.

As I continue to tweak my own skills for dealing with the inevitable emotional roller coasters that come with Neuroendocrine cancer, I have learned there is no one answer for every situation. Fitful sleep can be harnessed with a favorite album from college for one situation or a cherished memory of a lakeside vacation, for another. And when the mental burden of an incurable disease seems to rob me of my sanity, I will remind myself that even on my worst days, there is always something for which to be grateful.

If you or someone you care for need a little extra support please don’t hesitate to call the NCAN Hotline at 1-866-850-9555. That’s what we are here for.

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Disclaimer: NCAN blog posts are the opinions of its writers and are not intended as a replacement for medical advice. Please consult your Health Care Providers for individual concerns.